None of us is article to have "the passive neighbour", as we are all affected by the things that go on in the neighborhood and among those with whom we live. Let's observe the tendency to pay casual concentration only during the holidays, while going about one's enterprise unconcerned and unaffected the rest of the year. As a licensed and certified massage therapist who also works from home, I am affected on both sides of the scenarios. Neighborly relationships should matter all year, not just on holidays. One neighbor just might be called upon in a life-and-death scenario and if we have all been paying attention, we will riposte this call.
Holiday seasons are some of the loneliest, most depressing times across the world. This has been my perceive and consideration of those I have lived among. As the season changes to the fall, it's approximately as if the Universe and our bodies prepare for a long, expensive, debt-ridden, dismal, boring and aggravating part of the year; which brings with it the grey gloom and early darkness and the feeling that as soon as potential after work you should be wearing your pajamas and hugging a pillow and the remote. "Strangers" start wishing you all kinds of things and giving "friendly" invitations to their parties (but never to network); whereas other times of year, they don't even riposte when you say hello. They look the other way and pretend not to hear. enterprise is slow and so I have more time on my hands. So I observe habitancy more closely... Lol
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In the Spring and Summer months, you can walk about, go to the parks, the malls, bookstores, coffee shops, etc., and smile at habitancy genuinely... Or ignore habitancy indubitably (with no one taking offense), or plainly sit among them and listen to the buzz and not feel obligated to speak, while still feeling "part of" the aesthetics of that area. Not so the rest of the year. Every person and their grandmother are out and about spending money they don't have (our culture is known for spending a dime while earning a nickel... ) and wishing Every person all kinds of holiday greetings. They don't care either you celebrate holidays or not. Most habitancy will be offended and think one's rude for not wishing the greetings back, and it doesn't matter either you mean it or not, just as long as you "play along".
There are many who have received, and will yet receive invitations from "people they don't know"... habitancy who don't, and probably won't, speak the rest of the year... They are buying you presents, expecting presents, and/or are acting especially friendly "in the spirit of the holidays", but have ignored you as you come and go all year... Until now. If you live in a small town, then some of this might not make sense to you. Every person regularly knows Every person else and is somehow connected, so it's not strange to get or give invitations to things. However, when you live in the cities with their large apartment and condo complexes, and where most habitancy mind their daily businesses approximately oblivious to the man next door or across the hall, you understand how strange the "spirit" can be. Even networking opportunities are difficult to find within these communities and it's weird because Every person needs a "sample" back or shoulder rub as soon as you say you are a massage therapist... I.e. Until they learn that you work from home, then things get indubitably weird.
I have a neighbor who has this tiny dog... Well in my community there are probably more pets than habitancy but that's not the point... This woman walks the dog a few times a day as she appears to be retired. I just always seem to be heading out my door or advent in just as she's advent in or going out with the dog or we pass each other at the park. I say hello, but never get a response. Sometimes I chuckle to myself as I come upon her and see her try to busy herself with the dog or turn to look at the sky or anything, just so she doesn't look at me... The last time she looked at me I smiled and said how are you today and that was "uncomfortable" as she swooped down and pet her dog and said nice things to it... It's habitancy like this that offer you a pie at holiday time! The woman whose door is immediately in front of mine seems to watch me through the peephole. If she's walking her dog in and sees me coming, she either hurries in or stops a ways away to "watch the sky," waiting for me to get in ahead of her. If we happen to open our doors to leave at the same time, she goes back in and waits for me to go down the stairs. At first it was weird, but now I ignore her or occasionally it's funny in my mind. The woman who walks this neighbor's dog for her during the days does the same thing... Well, she'll riposte when I say hello, but if I follow-up with a "how are you doing today?", then she turns and begins addressing the dog instead of responding to that... No further conversation is necessary, I guess.
I have greeted a few in the community who knew me by name and that I am a massage therapist (yes your neighbours do talk about you); which is even weirder than the prior experiences because they have never stopped to introduce themselves. I'm so surprised that they call me by name and stuff that the moment passes before I can shake hands and ask their names... A lot of habitancy have lived here for years and some even have keys to other people's apartments. Actually, I had the locks changed when I moved in because I kept advent home and wondering either man had been here snooping. These are the habitancy who will probably be having the home parties during the holidays and will want to request me... To play along. All of this is o.k., as long as it's o.k. For me to plainly smile and say thanks (good manners) and make mental note to approach after "the spirit of the holidays" has passed. I do perceive habitancy take strong offense and might not be friendly after I have politely declined a holiday invitation. Neighbours don't have to be friends, but casual and friendly conversations should be the norm, not just for a season. Since I work from home from time to time, it would be nice to get to know my neighbors, because of the need for safety in the kind of work that I do. I look out for them and they look out for me... And we both advantage professionally and socially...
Single habitancy and the elderly are some of the loneliest around holiday times. Even the clubs hike their prices so as to growth their profits. Many migrants, as well as others in the community don't celebrate/observe the holidays. Some habitancy do celebrate but are away from their families and friends, and/or are unemployed and can't afford to observe them. friendly and casual conversations with these habitancy could give comprehension on these situations throughout the year, if we are truly neighborly. This way we can cordially check on and look out for one another, either they look like us, speak like us, believe what we believe or celebrate what we celebrate or not... In a "spirit of reality and community".
Unfortunately, habitancy are suspicious of others, but not suspicious enough to befriend a man to find out first hand who he/she is. I am still trying to find out what is so intelligent about a single, black, woman with locs living alone in her apartment; advent and going with her hippie-like sack on her shoulder. Foreign blacks are different from American blacks, but to Americans, we all look the same and do the same things. Neighbors appear to be mostly interested in how/whether one can afford the rent, what man does for work (which you will be judged by), where the neighbor is going or advent from; how many men or women come and go from that apartment and what do they do in there... Great, if they would talk directly to you.
Massage therapists working from home must perceive that a majority will assume that you are complex in more "raunchy" and intelligent stuff than just giving expert massages. In my case, how else am I able to afford to pay my bills and be home a lot with only a few clients, some wonder. My enterprise cards and connected advertising are removed from the community board as fast as I put them up, while other materials seem to stay for months after habitancy have moved out. habitancy wonder "quietly" either I will have all kinds of other black habitancy over and play loud music and have loud fights... Or whatever other stereotypes one may have of black people... I can see the shock and approximately "ease" on some faces when my patrons are white, like my neighbors, affluent, and that there are many females among them. All of these things may settle either or not they speak to me, consideration if they haven't seen me for a while, or sense something out of "the norm". This kind of scrutiny can prove helpful when it counts... If not just in the imagination of the suspicious neighbor. However, imagination and judgment should not replace facts or a friendly and good rapport within the community.
I believe neighbors should replacement phone numbers. This way if the music is loud, just call up or knock next door... Instead of slamming doors, calling the cops, or banging on the walls/floors. I've given my card to a few but I wonder either they haven't given me theirs because "they're just not into me"... Lol You don't have to send wine and food. You don't have to ask me out on a Saturday night date, but you can smile and make casual conversation. I like to leave my card with the new habitancy when we meet but if I don't have one on me and it's inopportune, I leave it later with a note under the door. One never knows, either I may be ready to help them get placed in in some way... Or give a therapeutic and spirit-based massage when the boxes are empty... Lol. request a few over for a game of cards and have a potluck. Go to the gym or go jogging together. There are so many things to do and so many ways to get to know your neighbors. Manufacture acquaintance before and without the holidays will make invitations around the holidays much easier and more genuine. In my case, it might prove leading and therapeutic for your home, condition and personal care.
More Observations And Concerns of A Massage Therapist Working From Home during Holiday Season
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